Tyler Skinner is an entrepreneurial alchemist and the founder of Connected Communities, a creative consultancy that helps women connect with each other and their passions. Tyler’s work is geared towards facilitating meaningful connections between women and empowering them to be their best selves in business, career, and life. Here’s a few gems from our Confidence Conversation:
Finding clarity helps you find yourself. We spend a lot of time searching for purpose, but not a lot of time sitting still and seeking clarity. 2020 was a game changer for Tyler because it was a time that forced her to sit at home and really dig deep and go within. It was a time that forced her to seek clarity and find herself in the process.
Go innate. If you want answers you have to look within. We have the tendency to look outside of ourselves for what we need, but the truth of the matter is that we already have what we need. It’s time to trust the power and light inside of you.
Sometimes it takes a difficult season to bring you back to yourself. Tyler was like many people at the beginning of the pandemic--anxious, concerned, and ready to get back to life before COVID-19. During that season she found herself watching the news relentlessly and living life on pause. One day, she looked around and realized that she wasn’t being herself and she thought, “this isn’t me. I’m not a person who sits around and waits, I’m a person that does.” So what did she do? She picked herself and did what she knew best: took action.
They can have your recipe but the sauce won’t taste the same. You are valuable in your own right and have value just because you’re you. Find motivation in the fact that you are your own best asset. Find what you're passionate about doing, put yourself out there, and have confidence in the outcome.
Abundance is infinite. Someone else’s success doesn’t limit your ability to succeed. People have the tendency to compare and compete rather than collaborate and combine, but the truth is that we are better together. When one person succeeds, that opens the pathway for more abundance and opportunity for others.
Get intentional about positivity. We put lots of time and effort into our careers, children, and goals, but we rarely turn that attention inwards to focus on our mental health and self care. It’s time to be intentional about creating joy and positivity. To do this, Tyler recommends positive affirmations, vision boarding, and uplifting sticky notes.
Give yourself grace and listen to your needs. Your body will tell you what it needs if you listen to it. Take the time to be compassionate and encourageable towards yourself--it’s the only way to fully grow.
You have to fill your own cup up. External validation is never fulfilling, and although it may feel good to be acknowledged by others, it’s a reward that’s temporary and fleeting. You have to find what works for you. How do you do this? Pay attention to your energy levels, recognize what feels good, and talk to yourself kindly. Give yourself the grace to make mistakes and begin again.